What My Daughter Taught Me
On 5-16-12, Jayda Marie Harris was born. So tiny, 4lbs 4 ounces exactly, she fit right in my palm. I fell in love instantly. Having her was the best thing that ever happened to me. I often hear people say how bless they are NOT to have any kids or praising the Lord they don't have kids. Why? If they only knew how much of a blessing having children really is. Although I am in full support of being stable before having children and strongly considering who you have them with, sometimes things don't go as planned. All in all, i love being a mother and even though Motherhood is an ongoing learning experience, here's what my daughter has taught me so far and some advice for you as well!
I think this is the number one thing I've learned and still learning . My daughter has taught me the true meaning of patience. From teaching her how to walk, write to potty training and eating with utensils, all of this required thee upmost patience. Realizing she had to learn at her own pace and to just enjoy the moment just made life so much easier for the both of us.
In Short: be patient, your time will come while enjoying life's journey.
That's what she gives me. Motivation to never give up even when I felt hopeless. During whatever I'm going through, I look at her little face or think of her the rare moments she's not with me and dust myself off and keep pushing! Every time I was asked or still asked what motivates me, my answer will always be my daughter. If it wasn't for her, I'm not sure what my life would be like. I wouldn't have graduated with high gpa, wouldn't have the faith I have now, the job I have, anything.
In Short: keep going! Don't give up! Remember who you're doing it for.
Rediscovering My Inner-Child
While "Adulting," we seem to take life so seriously and forget we're still allowed to have fun. Thank God I have my daughter to remind me of that. We laugh, we play and act carefree together. It's a joy seeing her
love some of the things I use to love as a child. It's never a dull moment with her around. She takes all the stress, worries, everything negative away and reminds me to enjoy life to the fullest. I look at her and see how fearless she is and think why do we lose that as adults? Why isn't it as easy to just go for things like we did when we were kids? We're so afraid to fail that the thought of trying scares us. As adults, we should remember how fearless we were when were younger and not let fear stop us from achieving our goals we dreamed of as children.
In Short: Enjoy the life you have, be brave, be fearless, you only get one.
Transparency moment: As a teen to early 20s, I use to think the only way to receive "real love" came from having a significant other before I had my daughter. I was searching for what I thought was true love in all the wrong places. I was searching before I learned that love is suppose to come to you naturally and to wait on God to bring the right person into your life. When i first laid eyes on my daughter, It was a feeling I never felt before, I fell in love. From that point on, I would do everything in my power to make her happy, provide for her everything she needs and wants and give her more love than I've given anyone. It fills me up to see a smile on her face from the simplest things I'm able to do for her and I don't need anything in return besides the unconditional love she naturally gives back.
In Short: Recognize what is real love. "Love that feels free and without reservation is unconditional."
Oh and a lot of it! For most, having a child is like instant growth. Once you have a child, it becomes less about you and way more about them. Before my daughter, i was in my early 20s, I was away at college, 3 1/2 hours away to be exact, so I was partying every weekend, focusing on having fun, being on my own, doing what I want, when I want, that all came to an end when I had her, but I'm glad it did. The party life, hanging out and going out every weekend didn't seem as glamorous to me as it once did. I was in complete mommy mode, gained back my focus and had my little motivation right by my side, every step of the way. I grew more than mentally, but spiritually as well. God became a huge part of my life. I was going through the lowest time of my life right after I had my daughter( post-partum depression, fresh out of college, unemployed, trying to prove I can handle taking care of this newborn without help). In the midst of it all, I would look at my daughter, began praying long and hard prayers and as a result my faith started to grow and blessings started to come out of no where! ; I realized God was and still is bigger than any of my problems. That if I don't have anybody, I have God and my daughter.
In Short: Once you experience real growth, you'll know it and it's a beautiful feeling!
My biggest thing my daughter has given me is a higher purpose in life. I now have someone to teach, to watch grow, to love and care for forever . I have a deeper meaning of what life is all about. I'm so blessed that God chose me to be the mother to my beautiful daughter.It has truly changed me and my life for the better.
In Short: Find your purpose. Once you do, love it and live in it!
Article Written By: Nadia Simone